公务员必读：机关15忌
<p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; line-height: 1; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1、不可任情使性</strong></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section data-id="41173" style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 人皆有喜怒哀乐，倘若入了仕途，自应有别于常人。喜则不知自禁，怒则拍案而起，哀则伤心惨目，乐则不可支颐，通为常人之态，官人不可随之。虽为常情，有伤涵养。御人之人，先行御己。心须沉静，勿躁；口须谨慎，勿聒；身须庄敬，勿慢。居官者宜心井澄明，又不使人一眼见底。城府之说，深浅有度。城府太深，叫人不可向迩；城府洞开，叫人不知敬服。遇人必有好恶，然所好不宜过亲，所恶不可太疏。好恶显形于色，必致无端猜疑。处事定有顺逆，然遇顺当知慎重，遇逆尤须放胆。若顺则轻忽，逆则畏葸，则为不堪其任。人之才能，性情半之。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 20px; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">2、不可恃才逞能</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 才而不恃，能而不逞，节制谨度，善守之策。居官者，恃才而政事频出，必招众怨；逞能而包揽巨细，必致错谬。山水不显，为事从容，大事有成竹，末节随他去，上下融融乐乐，方显将帅风度。若为下属，举事之轻重，当善为量之。轻重之间，非为机巧，只为策略。居贤能之下，尽其才能而行，必可出人头地；居庸愚之下，则小心慎行，早寻去路为上。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">3、不可埋怨上司无珠</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 任事用人总有不公，其中曲直不必细说。然而牢骚太甚，于事毫无补益。多有终日浩叹怀才不遇者，倒霉根由正在此处。不如笃实务事，蓄势寻机而起。子曰：“不患无位，患所以立。不患莫已知，求为可知也。”凭什么谋取职位，凭什么叫人刮目，这才是最要紧的。上司固然有能庸贤愚之别，却不必寄希望于知遇好上司。凡存此侥幸者，每逢新官到任，必趋身左右，觍颜俯首，媚态毕现。或故作放达，贤隐自居，待沽于奁。若未得逞，则又发不遇之叹，愤言上司有眼无珠。长此以往，俨然清狷高士，实则利蠹小人。<br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">4、不可责备下属无能</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 俗话说，五指有长短，缺一难成拳。善使人者，用长而避短，长则愈长，短则愈短。若不善用人之长，则只见人之短处。倘求全责备，则无人可用。为官事必躬亲，绝非勤勉之德，实为琐碎之病。有大格局者，必襟怀宽大，海纳百川。不记下属过违，慎言下属短长。有识谄辨谗之慧眼，有赏贤任直之公心。为官不贪功，居上不诿过。贪功则不得功，诿过则尽是过。倘若吹毛求疵，自命高明，鄙薄下属，必致上下怨怼。上司怒：目无官长！下属怨：长官无目！</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">5、不可志得意满</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 人生之险，尤在春风得意。月盈则亏，水满则溢；天数如此，人亦然之。谤随名高，古之信诫；荣者多辱，世之常理。人于顺境之中，需持临深履薄之心，切勿稍有懈怠，以至忘乎所以。权柄在握，恭维者众，日久易骄。骄则不能自明，日久易昏。昏则不能辨事，日久易庸。聪慧卓越之人，久居高位而致昏庸，覆车之鉴多矣！人颂：“大哉孔子！”孔子却说：“吾所执，执御乎？执射乎？吾执御也！”孔圣人谦称自己不过是个好司机。天下凡愚，当效圣人之襟怀。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">6、不可怨天尤人</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 肩负重任，朝乾夕惕，劳心劳力，理所应当。此为任劳，无悔也易。倘若备尝艰辛，显有功果，却招众怨，则于心难平。众怨不可逆遏，若以怨对怨，则怨上生怨。是谓任劳者易，任怨者难。居官者意气用事，则不但关乎心性，实是才具不逮。遇此境地，必须虚怀若谷，坦然淡定，静以制动。风过双肩，无使挂碍，假以时日，是非自明。纵有途径可为沟通，亦需戒急戒躁，缓为图之为善。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">7、不可钻营投靠</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 世如棋局，时有变数。今日若有投靠，明朝必定背叛。投靠是背叛的开始，背叛是投靠的终结。不要投靠任何人，也不要相信任何人的投靠。因投靠发迹者固然有之，实则是场赌博，输赢难逃天算。靠搜罗投靠者而乌合营垒的亦有之，实则也是赌博，绝非胜券在握。君子不党，实非迂腐之论。鼠目寸光者，只图眼前小利，自可不断投靠，大不了不断背叛。然而欲成大器者，必不朝秦暮楚。人生而平等，早是普世价值。当今之世，发誓臣服于人者，不顾脸面和尊严，所言必是假话无疑。这种人最靠不住。<br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">8、不可流于饶舌之弊</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 言多必失，似乎世故之诫。逢人只说三分话，不可全抛一片心，这便是庸俗了。但话多终是毛病，招祸在所难免。子曰：“君子欲讷于言而敏于行。”又云：“先行其言，而后从之。”孔子这些话，说的都是行动比说话重要。言多易生浮相，沉默方为金玉。当言则言，适可而止；不当言则不言，袖手旁观为上。却又无须做老好人，凡事唯唯，呆若木鸡。长此以往，人以为无用。与朋友相处，调笑无忌，全由性情，亦无大碍；与同事相处，插科打诨，油滑轻薄，终非得体；与上司相处，但观眼色，曲意奉迎，弄臣嘴脸，人所不齿。不必在口舌伶俐上下功夫，而应在腹中经纶上多用心。巧言令色幸得一时之利，沉默讷言可为长久之用。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">9、不可跟同事太密</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 同事以公谊为妥，惟谨慎于私交。王维有诗云：“白首相知犹按剑，朱门先达笑弹冠。”说的便是出入公门的达官贵人，相交白头都在相互提防。虽时迁事移，然于公而论，同事过从太密，难免蝇营狗苟，沆瀣一气。此风轻则拉帮结派，排除异己，互植私党；重则朋比为奸，窃权谋利，误公害民。此亦不可一概而论，同事间，亦确有肝胆相照者，然仍需知，君子之交淡如水。淡则长久，过密易疏。《论语》有载：澹台灭明非公事不访上司于私室，此为古君子之风，大可引为典范。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">10、不可盛气凌人</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 居上宜宽，宽则得众。苛刻暴戾，必成独夫。虽可强权压人，终不使人久服。人在屋檐下，低头不得已。他日得意时，视你为仇雠。子曰：“君子不重则不威。”重为庄重，不是自命贵重；威乃威严，绝非八面威风。然多有人寸权在握，即大耍派头，威风凛凛，招人惧恨。倘为高官，则装点敦厚假门面，盛气凌人于无形。一旦人去，必致骂声塞巷；倘若落井，定会下石如雨。盛气凌人者，未必全为官员，平常之公职，亦有不可一世之流。上司面前装孙子，百姓面前充老爷。成日耀武扬威，嘴脸形同恶奴。这种人，绝不会被委以大用。</span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="margin-top: 0.8em; margin-bottom: 0.5em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; border: 0px; line-height: 1;"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-bottom-width: 1px; border-bottom-style: solid; width: 670px; font-size: 1.4em; font-family: inherit; text-decoration: inherit; color: rgb(37, 57, 128); border-color: rgb(227, 73, 48);"><section class="tn-Powered-by-XIUMI" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">11、不可勾心斗角</strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 0px; height: 0px; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">**** Hidden Message *****</section></section></section></section><div><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></div><p></p>向上司请示工作，有时不仅得不到明确指示，反而会被怪罪不动脑筋；如果不请示，又可能被说成自作主张，没把上司放在眼里。该不该向上司请示，如何请示，常常让助理感到左右为难。小汪是公司市场部经理助理，最近一段时间为全国IT产品博览会的筹备工作忙得不可开交。今天离博览会的召开只剩一星期了，下午小汪收到供应商制作的会议样本衫，打开一看，商标的颜色明显与打样有出入。小汪向供应商提出交涉，要求重做，供应商说至少需要10天才能做好。小汪无奈，只好拿着有问题的样本衫找经理赵臣请示。赵臣听完汇报反问小汪：“事已至此，你准备怎么办？”
小汪低着头小声说：“我也不知道该怎么办。”
赵臣非常生气：“如果我现在去和总经理说样本衫出了问题，不能按时交工，他会谅解吗？”
小汪的头低得更低了。
赵臣接着说：“既然出了问题，不管是不是你的责任，你都要在第一时间向我汇报，让我知道情况，这一点你做得很对。但是，你是我的助理，就要帮我分担责任，而不是把问题交给我就没事了。所以，当你来向我请示的时候，应当带着补救措施来，而不是不动脑子跟我要答案，除非你动了脑筋但是想不出答案！”) K, |$ g& d0 x5 z`0 [! i$ T
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“无论如何，样本衫的质量不能降低。这批样本衫作废。你去找一下别的印制公司，看能不能两三天交活儿，即便要价高一点儿也只能认了！”
“好的！”小汪大声说。+ d+ }{. x& s6 D_
上司并不讨厌助理向自己请示工作，而是讨厌助理不经思考就请示。如果助理在请示中毫无建设性意见，不能提供决策所需的信息，只是做了转达的工作，上司怎么会满意呢？) Z/ A. h3 Il( A3 J( a" V; v
一、职责范围内的事少请示
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一般来说，对于职责范围内的日常工作，助理完全应该自行处理，无须请示上司。只有出现了新情况，或者在自己职权内无法解决的问题时，才需要向上司请示。
二、请示之前做好预案
上司的精力也是有限的，所以助理不要事事不经考虑就请示。如果非请示不可，也要事先想好可供上司参考的预案，而不是当甩手掌柜，把问题全部上交。( H8 C, {0 L, y
三、要注意请示的时机
请示必须注意时机。比如，你想淘汰旧电脑换台新的，如果在成本分析会上提出来，上司肯定不批；如果在上新项目时提出，理由是旧电脑影响工作效率，就有可能得到批准。
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四、要注意请示的场合
请示工作还要看场合，最好事先计划一下。适合在办公室请示的事，别在外出时商讨；适合在会上讲明的事，别拖到会后；能在公司里解决的事，别夹带到应酬场合中影响交际。同一件事，场合不同，请示的效果大不一样。作者：谭一平
（摘自《秘书》） 很喜欢这篇文章，看了之后受益匪浅。才刚参加工作，有些话还看不透，多年之后再翻出来看，兴许会有不同的感悟。摘录部分触动的句子：
人皆有喜怒哀乐，倘若入了仕途，自应有别于常人。
御人之人，先行御己。
遇人必有好恶，然所好不宜过亲，所恶不可太疏。
人之才能，性情半之。
大事有成竹，末节随他去。
居贤能之下，尽其才能而行，必可出人头地；居庸愚之下，则小心慎行，早寻去路为上。
凭什么谋取职位，凭什么叫人刮目，这才是最要紧的。
善使人者，用长而避短。
不记下属过违，慎言下属短长。
人生之险，尤在春风得意。月盈则亏，水满则溢。
风过双肩，无使挂碍，假以时日，是非自明。
不要投靠任何人，也不要相信任何人的投靠。
逢人只说三分话，不可全抛一片心。
不必在口舌伶俐上下功夫，而应在腹中经纶上多用心。
君子之交淡如水。淡则长久，过密易疏。
居上宜宽，宽则得众。
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